What is style? And what does it mean to have it?
To me, style is an act of self expression. It's an extension of the self, the spirit, embodied, having a human experience in what ever way feels good right now. It's a statement of how the ego feels today, and what your essence wants to say, in this moment.
It's also an expression of what tribe you affiliate with, of what music you like, of what lifestyle you want to create, of what attitude you take to life... Yes! What you wear is an extension of what you have to say... without saying a word.
Your personal style is a powerful avenue through which you can, and do assert yourself. Some of us demand an audience, some of us want subtle acknowledgement, and some of us still want to camouflage into a sea of other humans bobbing along unnoticed.
But regardless of whether you want to blend in or stand out, you are definitely saying something by the way you choose to dress yourself when you start your day. And the choice is yours to make each day.
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not pushing consumerism here. Quite the opposite, I'm advocating for a celebration of your unique essence. Of using your style as an effective tool to portray who you are inside. This has zero to do with designer cloths or keeping up with the latest trends, and everything to do with aligning your external world to your internal world so they come into resonance and send out a clear message. Because we are all sending out messages anyway, all the time!
I've worked as a stylist in the New York fashion industry for about a decade now, and what I know for sure is that it doesn't matter how expensive your outfit is, if it doesn't feel like you, if your not comfortable wearing it, it shows, and the message you send out is uncertainty, rather then self assurance and confidence.
What I am saying is, discover your flavor, if you don't already know it.
Get to know yourself, and what you truly like to wear. Your style, and the time you spend with yourself in the morning choosing what to wear can be an act of self care, and self love. Honor yourself, and treat yourself to feeling good in your cloths. This will translate to feeling in resonance with your essence, and when you feel in resonance your vibration raises, because you feel good!
"Life is a dress up party"
Who are you, who are you becoming, what energy are you channeling?
Honestly, I'm not always at my best. Sometimes my outfit says 'low key', or 'grungy' and that's totally and absolutely ok. It's about consciously choosing that feeling state and owning it, it's ok to have a 'blah' day, but have it with confidence, not guilt and shame!
Another aspect of personal style is that rather then expressing where we are at in the moment (say you're having an 'I don't care day', or 'I haven't done my laundry day'), but you don't want to feel that way, you can choose to shift by putting on a bright lipstick or thinking of someone you admire and stepping into their energy. You can do this by channeling their style and essence.
You can tap into another persons power, someone you admire by dressing as they would. Say you have a meeting and want to appear 'nonchalant' or 'cool', then maybe Patti Smith will do the trick. If you want to sleigh at the meeting, you might consider channeling the goddess Durga. Either way, the act of dressing yourself for this meeting can be approached like a ceremony. And as you consciously perform this ceremony you are sending a message to your unconscious mind of what you are trying to achieve. When your unconscious mind aligns with your conscious intention, you become a force to be reakoned with.
Own your essence, own your self expression. Understand that we are always sending out signals and messages. Consciously choose your style, your flavor, your daily expression, as an act of creating resonance, and also as an act of self care. Confidence is something we learn, as is self love, and as is personal power.
Your personal style is one avenue of owning who you are.
Make it fun, make it playful, make every day a dress up party.
With Love & Light,